My Way Your Way

Yesterday while on the bus I was witness to one of the funniest and cutest arguments I think I would ever experience πŸ˜‚

So two school boys, about 12 years old -roughly- maybe younger? Well, they were in disagreement of the day of ChristmasπŸ™ŠπŸ˜‚ which we ALL of cause know is the 25th of December every year right? Yeah, well this little boy was convinced it was the 24th of December. He was so sure of himself that he loudly posed the question to the rest of the bus, which was filled with parents and other school children πŸ˜‚ πŸ™ˆ

What was he expecting us to say? πŸ˜‚ I think we were all just shocked and surprised by he question really, it took a while for someone to answer, when eventually a lady said “it’s the 25th dear” and this little boy response was “oh well it’s the 24th at midnight that’s what I meant” πŸ˜„πŸ™‰ bless his little soul ❀️ and like little boys they just carried on with boy talk 😜

How often do we admit that we wrong? How often are we truly willing to apologise for a mistake we’ve made? What stops us from doing this? How often do we allow ourselves to learn new things? πŸ’­

My little story was just an example of everyday real life situations, as humorous as it may be it’s reality πŸ’

Conflict is a normal part of any healthy relationship. Two people can’t be expected to agree on everything, all the time. Right?

Conflict needs to be dealt with, because it only festers😱 learning how to deal with conflict is vital πŸŽ“because when conflict is mismanaged, it can cause harm to a relationship-and we don’t want that- and when it is handled in a respectful and positive way it can actually provide an opportunity to strengthen the bond between two people πŸ‘βœŒοΈ

I say let’s learn conflict management πŸŽ‰πŸ’ƒπŸ™…

And it goes without saying, we all face some sort of conflict during the day but by learning these skills for conflict resolution, you can keep your personal and professional relationships strong and growingπŸ‘Œ

I am not one who likes conflicting situations and I don’t think my husband will agree πŸ˜„ but it’s true. I do tend to border on accommodating and avoiding as far as possible! πŸ™ˆ not always the best solution because I’m the one that ends up unhappy and unsatisfied 😭 πŸ˜‚

But it is also important to “pick your fights” and I’m pretty confident in my ability to know what’s worth it and what’s not!

Those smelly socks and shoes lying all over the floor is worth it πŸ˜‚πŸ‘ŸπŸ‘ž in the laundry basket PLEASE! 😜

Emotional awareness is the key to understanding yourself and others because if you don’t know how you feel or why you feel that way, you won’t be able to communicate effectively or resolve disagreements. And yes, we’ve probably heard this way too much but I do believe that if more people knew how to resolve conflict we wouldn’t have half the wars we having today! πŸ’”

I was given the opportunity to present a short lesson on conflict management at my mothers academy a few years back, below is a summarised version of a technique to use when dealing with conflict.

I talk you listen
You repeat what I said
We agree or clarify what was said
You talk I listen
I repeat what you said
We agree or clarify what was said
We discuss solutions together
We agree on a solution
Be happy πŸ˜„

Always make sure that good relations are your first priority and always keep people separate from problems πŸ‘

It might be a bit boring πŸ˜„ because sometimes a little bit of drama is exciting πŸ™… and there’s this sort of thrill attached to screaming and shouting 😜 but at some point we need to sit down and calm down! Because let’s face it, no one is going to listen to a ranging lunatic! πŸ™ˆπŸ™ŠπŸ™‰

By following those simple yet effect steps we can create a platform for positive and constructive criticism – if I may- and prevents things spinning out of control ✌️

🎢spin my world around🎢

This is first and foremost a reminder to myself, who is constantly at war with someone everyday πŸ˜‚πŸ˜„

🎢I just can’t get enough🎢

So, Here’s too choosing our fights wisely, showing the people we love that they worth it, admitting when we wrong, being open to change, sacrifice and compromise 🌸

Let’s have fun fighting πŸ˜„πŸ’‹

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